Not that I attend that many funerals, but I often wonder, are the people attending them actually sad, or are they just pretending? Do they think it's like the movies, and the spirit of the deceased is walking around watching them, making sure they are mourning them? I want my funeral to not be a sad occasion, but rather a celebration of life.
Sometimes I wonder why people cannot have an interesting funeral. Why does everyone have to cry and make such a scene. Why can't funerals be like parties where we celebrate the fact that the person has left this world and gone to another better world, like how we celebrate graduation where the child leaves home and goes on to explore better things in life.
I often sit and plan my own funeral. I know my friends and family think I'm insane for doing this. I can't understand why. We plan other major events in our life, why not our own funeral? It's one more journey we are going on, and it should be carried out to our wishes.
I believe that a funeral plan can actually be cooler than a wedding plan. When planning a wedding, there is always the most stressful question of whether you are doing the right thing. That question doesn't even come up in funeral planning. See if you agree with me that my funeral plan sounds like fun, because I do not want depression and sadness at this affair, because I am quite certain that I will be moving on to a happier place, and I want people to be happy for me because of it.
I've always had a love of music. I especially enjoyed playing the guitar and want to be remembered for my music. That is why my coffin should be guitar shaped and painted black and gold. Hopefully, it will look like my present guitar when finished.
At my memorial service, I would love it if my husband or my boyfriend sang 'Last Kiss' by Pearl Jam. He need not sing the whole song if it is inappropriate, just the chorus will do. I really love that song, and I think its extremely romantic even if it's a funeral we're talking about here.
I do not want my mother to mourn me, but instead, I want her to make my favorite wine - the homemade wine I love so much. I want people to comment about how good the wine is, and to compliment my mother on her recipe, rather than trying to console her for her loss. This should definitely add to the party spirit.
Although I think about these things now, I also wonder if it even matters. Why do people shop for and dress in their Sunday best for a funeral? Why create all that drama if, indeed, the spirit of the deceased is really not in attendance? Does it matter if we have the best choir, an eloquent eulogy, and nicely dressed attendees? All unanswered questions, but I will be happy to wait for answers to them until it is my time to know.
Sometimes I wonder why people cannot have an interesting funeral. Why does everyone have to cry and make such a scene. Why can't funerals be like parties where we celebrate the fact that the person has left this world and gone to another better world, like how we celebrate graduation where the child leaves home and goes on to explore better things in life.
I often sit and plan my own funeral. I know my friends and family think I'm insane for doing this. I can't understand why. We plan other major events in our life, why not our own funeral? It's one more journey we are going on, and it should be carried out to our wishes.
I believe that a funeral plan can actually be cooler than a wedding plan. When planning a wedding, there is always the most stressful question of whether you are doing the right thing. That question doesn't even come up in funeral planning. See if you agree with me that my funeral plan sounds like fun, because I do not want depression and sadness at this affair, because I am quite certain that I will be moving on to a happier place, and I want people to be happy for me because of it.
I've always had a love of music. I especially enjoyed playing the guitar and want to be remembered for my music. That is why my coffin should be guitar shaped and painted black and gold. Hopefully, it will look like my present guitar when finished.
At my memorial service, I would love it if my husband or my boyfriend sang 'Last Kiss' by Pearl Jam. He need not sing the whole song if it is inappropriate, just the chorus will do. I really love that song, and I think its extremely romantic even if it's a funeral we're talking about here.
I do not want my mother to mourn me, but instead, I want her to make my favorite wine - the homemade wine I love so much. I want people to comment about how good the wine is, and to compliment my mother on her recipe, rather than trying to console her for her loss. This should definitely add to the party spirit.
Although I think about these things now, I also wonder if it even matters. Why do people shop for and dress in their Sunday best for a funeral? Why create all that drama if, indeed, the spirit of the deceased is really not in attendance? Does it matter if we have the best choir, an eloquent eulogy, and nicely dressed attendees? All unanswered questions, but I will be happy to wait for answers to them until it is my time to know.
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